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In
part one of
‘The Empty Nest
Marriage’ Still Having Fun
in Yours?” we went over
some ideas of getting that
zest back into your lives.
We will continue on here in
part two with even more
ways! Remember, you can
start out slow by just
picking one thing different
to do or something you
haven’t none in a long
time, the point here is to
just do something! Don’t
wait on your partner to make
the first move; someone has
to get things going, why not
you? After all it could be
in your best interest in the
long run, so what have you
got to loose?
It
was mentioned taking walks
together in the previous
article, which can be a good
way to get some exercise and
communicate more. Have you
given any thought about
joining a health club?
It may not be for you
but at least think about it.
It
was also mentioned in part
one about making some
changes around the house,
have you thought about
possibly moving? Maybe you
would consider
‘downsizing’ It’s not
for everyone but it is worth
a thought. Some have done so
and were very happy with the
results, while others are
content to just stay where
they are. Food for thought!
Do
either of you like sports of
any kind,?
Tennis, golf,
swimming, bowling and other
such sports that you could
both participate in
together?
Do
you belong to any social
clubs? If not, have you
given any thought to joining
some? It’s a great way to
get out and make new
friends. Maybe a book or
music club? Travel Club (or
start one of your own)? Find
what interest you the most,
then you can discuss the
idea of joining one that you
think both of you would
like.
Why
not make a game of it all?
Get a small note pad and
each of you write down about
5-10 (or more) ‘Do You
Remember’ notes and put
them in two small boxes,
then you can each draw one
out of the others every
other day. It could be such
things as; do you remember
when we first met? ‘Our
first date’
‘when we bought our
first car together or
house’
‘The old Five &
Dime we used to get Milk
Shakes at’
‘Where or what you
were doing when some big
event in history happened’
Start thinking of it and I
bet you could come up with a
very long list!
But,
remember now!!!!! The whole
point of this is to rekindle
some of those old memories
and how you felt about each
other all those years ago,
so don’t get miffed if the
other doesn’t remember
some of the things you do!
(More then likely it will
happen) Think of what fun it
will be to bring some of
those memories back; you
might be surprised at how
flattered the other may feel
that you still have such
fond memories.
Something
else that others have
considered is being a foster
parent or they have even
adopted. There have been a
few on the message forum at
Empty Nest Moms (www.emptynestmoms.com)
that have talked about
adopting and some that
actually have. It’s
something to consider.
There
are also loads of places
where both of you could do
volunteer work, such as
senior citizens homes,
hospitals, homeless shelters
and even schools. They are
always in need of
volunteers.
Speaking
of schools, have you given
any thoughts to going back
and taking some classes,
either to help in your
employment now or just for
your own personal interest?
It’s never too late for
more education! Some have
even gone back and gotten
degrees in certain fields.
In
closing, I’d just like to
remind you that it really
doesn’t take much to get
the ball rolling as long as
someone is willing to make
the first move! So, “Go
For It!” Get some of that
ole ‘Sparkle’ back and
go out and start having some
fun again!
Don’t
forget to visit Empty Nest
Moms OR if you are
interested in doing some
traveling, check out Empty
Nesters Travel for some fun
Cruises or Motor Coach
Tours!
Feel
free to contact me for any
questions (and to let me
know how the ‘fun’ is
coming along!)
Jeanine
Herrin
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